Incorporating Your Children

Physical Integration

Have the kids stand with you during this vow (if age-appropriate).
Include a symbolic gesture: Step-parent gives child a small token (engraved necklace, family medallion).
All hold hands while the vows are spoken.
Flower Child
Ring Bearer
Handfasting Rope Bearer

Verbal Integration

Intro
Today isn’t just about your marriage, it’s about (child/children's names) too, your whole family.

Couples children
1. Do you both vow to always make space for (his/her/their) laughter, (his/her/their) dreams, and (his/her/their) voice? And do you vow to build a home filled with love, patience, honesty, and endless support? (we do)

Blended family
2. I choose you, [Partner], and I choose (child/children's Names) too. I vow to love them deeply, support them fiercely, and honor the beautiful family we create together. I promise to partner with you in building a home where our children always feel:
Loved without limits,
Safe to grow and dream,
Seen for who they are,
and Celebrated every single day.

3. I vow to stand by your side not only as your partner, but as a steadfast teammate in parenting. I will embrace (child/children's Names) with patience, kindness, and an open heart — nurturing a home where they always belong, and where love is our foundation.

4. Today, I marry you and welcome (child/children's Names) into my heart. I promise to cherish them, champion them, and walk beside them through life’s adventures. Together with you, I vow to create a haven where laughter echoes, trust grows deep, and our family’s bond only strengthens with time.

Follow up Blessing
May this family be rooted in respect, woven with joy, and strengthened by the love that binds them today.